Today I’m sharing a piece of our personal life that I’ve been avoiding. I’ve started and stopped this post over the course of the last couple months. It’s a difficult topic to approach because it’s a goal that we have as a family that is not always well received by others. It’s a topic that a lot of adoptive parents aren’t open about, but that’s even more reason for us to share, so that others starting this path aren’t in the dark. So here goes. Here’s how we feel about adoption.
In 2006 I started my first professional job in a field I’m passionate about- Marketing- for an incredible region- the Caribbean! I was also just embarking on my marriage with my husband Daniel with only two years under our belt. My first official solo trip for work was to head to Kingston, Jamaica to meet the Orbis flying eye hospital and handle sponsor coordination and support. I hadn’t been far from the US (my passport stamps included Canada and Mexico), I was 24-years-old, and I was excited to add that third entry stamp to my travel document! When I hit the ground in Jamaica, I got to work, organizing customer tours of the plane, coordinating support to help in the unloading process, and I attended a community outreach event where my company went to a local hospital with the Orbis team where we gave away goodies and good vibes to the patients.
Our tour of that hospital included an orphan wing, and I remember my disbelief that these children we were visiting didn’t have families. Some of them had severe medical conditions. I met a little girl who appeared to be six months old, by my estimate, but I found out from the staff that she was a little over twelve months. It was devastating and disheartening, and when I arrived home I announced to my husband that I wanted to adopt. He really wasn’t sure, we didn’t have any children of our own, and after years of discussion I agreed, with his guidance, that we would start our family on a more natural path and explore adoption later. I put my thoughts on hold, but quite honestly in, the back of my mind, adoption was calling to be a part of our story.
What we’re doing now
Right now there’s not much more to tell except the things we are doing to be proactive in this journey; here’s how we are being intentional.
We’re doing research.
We are meeting with agencies and going to info sessions to learn more about the process. We are reading about people who have adopted. We’re meeting with people who have adopted. We’ve purchased books about adoption. Basically we are learning what this process would mean for us.
We’re praying about it
Our life is a little hectic, but we know that this stage won’t last forever. So we are praying, keeping our eyes open for opportunities to learn more and we’re leaning in to what God wants for our family.
We’re preparing financially.
Adoption is expensive. Although there are some tax benefits and my company offers reimbursement in some cases for a small portion of the cost, there is still an extremely large upfront contribution required. We are preparing for those expenses. We’ve set up a fundraising page and we’re thinking over fundraising ideas that we could potentially move forward with.
Although not immediate, we will be preparing our home study. There is an expense to that, and it also has an expiration date and could expire if not used within a specific time frame (with a small fee for re-activation), so we are trying to hit the time just right for that exercise.
Most of all we just keep moving forward. Even a small step is a step in this process.
We will keep sharing significant stages in our process through this page. Please keeps us in your thoughts as we find out more about what this means for us. And hey, if you have experience with adoption and would like to share, please send me a note through the contact section of this page or through IG or Facebook.
**Update: We are home study approved and moving forward with an agency in Texas! We are currently awaiting placement and we’re fundraising for some of our adoption fees.