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Hand Out a High-Five- A Little Tip

Do you hi-five? I mean do you really hold up you hand with the corny gesture to tell someone “way to go” or “hey man good job”?

I gave my husband a high-five today for eating all his corn and chicken at the dinner table (for the pure audience of our children- hey parents will do anything to get their kids to eat). I also gave my husband a high-five for putting a backyard playground together. And you know what, it’s so cheesy. But you know what else, it feels great to hold up your hand and slap some recognition right into someone else’s being.

I don’t remember ever giving my husband a high-five before last week- how sad is that? There are so many missed opportunities. I am going to have to make it up to him! For those of you still here reading on about my kooky high-five banter, here’s the back-story.

My daughter would not eat the other day. This was her regular performance. We would set down her dinner and she’d turn her head and say “I don’t like” without ever trying it. This has been going on for weeks. It started to really concern me sooo I got desperate and did the first thing I could think of. I looked at my son and started giving him high-fives for every single bite he ate. My son was stoked and my daughter felt left out so she started shoveling food in her mouth. Hunger strike over! I was shocked! I mean, yes it was a desperate idea and I tried it out for size, but I never thought it would work!

My little experiment makes me realize how little effort requires to make someone feel engaged and appreciated. We have been handing out high-fives in our house ever since. My daughter is eating better because she doesn’t want to feel left out. She cares about being appreciated.  And what I took for granted is that my son WAS eating well and we weren’t giving him credit for that.

Here’s my challenge to you. Try out your high-five. Start with your kids, your spouse and your family and move to co-workers. Throw in a stranger for good measure. I promise you, most people can’t leave a high-five hanging. Plus, showing appreciation for other’s efforts with a high-five is totally cheesy, but strangely rewarding.

Side bar: We also tell Alexa to set a timer for a five minute count-down when our kids just take forever to eat- it drives my son BONKERS! (I can’t give away all my wonderful parenting tips in one post!) But the high-five approach has much better results around our table.

Cheers to high-fives (if a cheers and a high-five at the same time is even possible)!

~Ashley

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Friday Favorites {8.4.17}

Friday, Friday, Friday! I hope you’re having a great week. If you’re new here, take a look around and be sure to follow me on Facebook or Instagram or both for all the things Better with Beale.

This week and last week I have been stuck in work training and I’m so ready to move around and get back to my regular schedule because I’ve been SITTING and EATING and SITTING and EATING on repeat! We’re in the back to school boat. My son enters his 2nd year of preschool the end of this month. Finally, we’re trying to squeeze out the last few weeks of summer. It’s been hotter than hot (think 100’s), but we know the cold is coming soon so we’re trying to do all the summer season things (pool, water yard play, sprinklers, etc.).

I’m sure glad you’re here. Below are the highly anticipated favorites!

Bacon| This was the snack provided at my work training. Need I say more? A fantastic example of how Memphis does summer. It’s watermelon on a stick coupled with candied bacon. Let me repeat that: CANDIED BACON!!!! So now you know why I need exercise in my life- eek! (PS: I’m not sad about it. Just sayin!)

 


Sibling Love| These two! She can’t give out enough hugs and my son is like, really? He’s such a good sport though. She kissed and hugged him the entire walk! (PS: We do all our walks in matching jammies!)


Kicks| These red kicks match more outfits than I ever imagined. I want some for myself. They’re kids converse and I got them at a buy-one-get-one store, but I also found them online. I just love pairing a dress with tennis shoes for school. This kid’s face- she’s too much!


This book| I mentioned I started reading this book. It’s so good and a great light read so far. I haven’t finished it, but so far I recommend it.


Fail Fast| I posted all about my speeding ticket this week- yikes. That’s NOT my favorite, but I shared my perspective and that is to fail fast and how I’ve learned not to dwell on mistakes. It’s one of my favorite growing pains.

 


Praying for Others| Our women’s group at church closed one night with this exercise: trade prayers.

List a prayer you need for yourself on a sheet, throw it in the pile, and take a prayer home. I can’t post the group shot of all these beautiful women, but gathering around the prayers was so powerful that I took a quick shot of our prayers scattered all over the floor. It reminded me that everyone has something going on in their life. Every single person. We all need encouragement and grace from others.

 


That wraps up Friday Favorites for the week. I hope you are enjoying the rest of summer- have a great weekend and thanks for stopping by!

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From Trash to Treasure- Getting Organized

Happy Monday! It started pouring Sunday evening after a nice sunny, but very hot weekend. We found ourselves grilling under our overhang and watching the rain come down. It’s been in the high nineties and even hit the 100’s a couple of times so we’re hoping it cools things down a bit.

I’m not one to get rid of things. Well except for lately. We have a smaller home and this doesn’t mesh well in achieving my simplistic lifestyle goals. As of late, I discovered how an old trick can help me get organized, keep frequently used items at my fingertips, and make all the live-long junk look like a masterpiece. Well maybe not a masterpiece, but it keeps things from piling up and looking like, well, junk. Here’s my latest trick. It involves old spaghetti jars, Moscow mule mugs, delivery flower vases and planters.

We have been using our Moscow Mule mugs as vases when we’re not drinking up Mules!

I have been keeping our old spaghetti jars. I usually peel most of the label off and throw them in the dishwasher after they’re empty. After the dishwasher has steam cleaned them I take a razor and remove the rest of the label and sticky from the jar. I usually throw away the lid, but if you need a jar that closes you could also throw the lid in the dishwasher and spray paint it once it’s clean to hide the previous spaghetti logo and add a pop of color.

Flowers are stored on our bookcase in spaghetti jars. Having a large quantity of “vase” options allows us to buy a large bouquet of flowers from Costco and split them up throughout the house.

Measuring spoons, chords, clothespins, and loose screws are stored in spaghetti jars and pens and notepads in a flower planter.

Dish pods and sponges and bottle cleaners are stored by the sink in an old flower delivery vase and a spaghetti jar.

Finally, our front porch holds inviting toys such as bubble wands stored in a flower pot and chalk stored in a spaghetti jar. It makes me smile every time I embark on our doorstep after work. It reminds me we can still be summering even in work days.

What ways do you stay organized and re-purpose the old? I’d love to hear. Have a great week!

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Hola and Hey Mon!- An interview with Nicole Marley

I am happy to introduce you to my long-time friend, Nicole Marley. We met in Miami through work, but we’ve kept in touch ever since and I’ve always admired her, her family dynamic, her cultural upbringing and her overall good-natured spirit. She had such a positive impression on me back in the good ‘ole days when she was juggling work and tiny little humans; I was very young in my career trying to find my way in a multi-cultural city managing projects in a region I’d never visited before. Here’s a peak into her life including her background, her upbringing, one famous relative and some of her life philosophies.

Nicole, can you tell me a little bit about your background and upbringing?

Although I was born in Jamaica to Jamaican parents, we moved to Dominican Republic when I was only 3 years old.  It made for a very fun and interesting upbringing.

I went to a bilingual school until 2nd grade to help me learn Spanish (even though the best Spanish lesson I got was hanging out with the neighborhood kids).  In 3rd grade, I transferred to an American school, where I stayed until I graduated high school.  The funny thing was that when we were home, my brothers and I would speak in Spanish but turn around and speak to my parents in English.

My life was a mixture of Jamaican culture (and food) with the Dominican lifestyle that surrounded us.  The Dominican lifestyle was not only the language, but also the food, people and culture.  I have great memories of my childhood.  We lived in an apartment complex that was packed with kids.  Afternoons were spent outside playing tennis, tag, roller skating, hide-and-seek, to name a few.  I never went to summer camp as we spent all our days outside playing.  This was during a time with no cell phones.  So your parents couldn’t find you until you decided to go home for dinner.  It was definitely a very carefree and relaxed upbringing.

Now that you’re a parent, have you thought about what that might have been like for your parents to make such a big transition and did watching them inspire you at all in your own life?

It was definitely an incredibly brave thing for my parents to do.  They landed in a new country with 3 very young children, no family support, and couldn’t speak any Spanish at all.  Back in the 1970s, you didn’t come across many people in Dominican Republic that spoke English.  As an adult, I can now recognize that, as difficult as they knew the move would be, it was in the best interest of the family.  I am so impressed by how well they adapted to their new life.  They made it a priority to learn the language and make sure that my brothers and I did too.  They didn’t let fear dictate their decision.  It definitely has inspired me as an adult.  Whatever challenge I face, I don’t let fear of failure or of the unknown dictate the decision/outcome.

What brought you to the US?

Growing up my mom would constantly tell me how important it was to get an education.  She wanted to make sure that I could stand on my own two feet and not have to depend on anyone.  She also believed that the Dominican Republic offered very limited growth opportunities and she wanted us to study abroad to broaden our horizons.

After graduating from high school, I came to the US to get my undergraduate degree.  Upon completion, I returned to Dominican Republic for 3 years to work.  Then in 1999, I left again to go get my MBA.  I never returned to Dominican Republic after that as I was offered a job in Miami once I graduated.

You have a daughter and twin boys. Tell me a little bit about your daily and weekend routine.

Victoria is now 13 and Nicolas & Sebastian are 11 years old.  7 years ago I made the decision to leave my full time job to focus on the kids.  I wanted to spend as much time with them as possible and make sure that I was there whenever they needed/wanted me.  I joined the PTA at their school and spent countless hours volunteering.

Our daily routine, which by the way changes as they get older, is a bit hectic, as you can imagine.  I have to wake up at 6am to get Victoria ready for school.  She gets dropped off at the bus stop at 6:45am.  Then it’s back home and time to get Nicolas ready, as he needs to be at school by 7:45am (he’s a safety patrol).  Sebastian is the last to leave as he doesn’t have to arrive until 8:30am.  Once everyone is in school, this is now time for me to work out, volunteer at school or the classrooms (I was room mom for Sebastian’s class this year), supermarket, and run all house related errands.  The boys arrive home from school at around 3:15pm (Victoria arrives an hour later).   This will change the next school year as the boys will be switching to a new school and will leave home earlier.  It appears that I will now have to drive Nicolas to school and probably pick him up (we will see if I can work out a carpool).  Now that they will be gone for a longer period of time, I am looking to start getting back into some flexible work and maybe take some classes (cooking or photography for example) and I started exploring being a travel agent.

Once the kids are home, the craziness begins..  All 3 of them participate in different sports/activities and schedules vary by day.  Victoria dances 2-3 hours a day, Nicolas has water polo, tennis, robotics and piano and Sebastian has tennis, basketball and dodge ball (it would be too easy to have any of them participating in the same activity at the same time, right???).  Getting everyone to their classes means a lot of driving back and forth and making sure I remember who is where and what time they finish J.  It gets a bit tricky when two of them have to be at different places at the same time.

Once I was sitting in the kitchen with Sebastian and Victoria around 9 pm.  I asked Sebastian to please call his brother down for dinner to which Sebastian replied, “But he’s not here.  You never picked him up.”  OMG!!!  Can you believe I had completely forgotten to pick him up from tutoring (the tutoring was in preparation for a standardized test for their new school and it was not part of the normal routine).

Marcelo and I try to have a least one adult outing a week.  This could be something as simple as a dinner or a movie.  It’s always great to just have time to have a quiet conversation.  We also used to take a yearly trip for a couple of days without the kids.  The kids loved that trip because my dad would babysit and he would give them ice cream every day!!!

I definitely also try to have lunch or dinner with friends once a week; girl time is always such an energy recharge for me.

I heard that you have some pretty fun family reunions. Does your family go on vacation once a year together? Where are some of the places you’ve been?

My brother Paul and his family live in Canada, my parents still live in Dominican Republic and my brother Brent and I live here in Miami.  We always try to get the family together at least once a year.  It is so wonderful when all 17 of us get together.  The kids have such a wonderful time playing with their cousins and building unforgettable memories.

We have been to Dominican Republic (Punta Cana), skiing in Canada, Mexico, Miami, Orlando, and North Carolina. It’s always fun to watch all the kids playing with each other and with my parents.  During our last trip to Canada, the kids decided to have a snowball fight with my dad.  It was too cute because they would run up behind my dad pelting him with snow and he was fighting back.  One of the favorite things that the kids love playing with my parents is monkey in the middle in the ocean.  It definitely becomes quite competitive.

When we get together, we always try to take a family picture.  The last time we were in Canada in December, we decided that it would be nice to take a picture outside in our pajamas.  We were freezing but the kids were such good sports about it and all smiled on cue.

You have kind of a fun family tree and some famous relatives. Tell me how that has made your life interesting and any how this background has influenced your upbringing?

Our colorful family tree includes Bob Marley.  Believe it or not, he was my grandfather’s cousin.  His father and my great grandfather were brothers.  People have a hard time believing we’re related simply because of the color of our skin.  The thing is that Bob Marley’s father was English (the Marley’s were English) and his mother was Jamaican.  I have met people in person (after speaking with them over the phone and them learning my name) that are surprised to see that I am light skinned.  They assume that I would look more like the famous singing Marleys.  I definitely didn’t inherit the singing or performing talent J  Being related to Bob Marley honestly didn’t influence my upbringing.  I never met him or any of his children.  We left Jamaica when I was very small and never had contact with that side of the family.

Funny story:  Can you believe that once I was in Jamaica buying something and they asked me for my full name.  When I said Nicole Marley he answered, can you please spell your last name?  Really?  In Jamaica???

I have been around you long enough to know that you have a very neutral English dialect and I have heard your Spanish dialect is also pretty neutral. Are people surprised when you explain your background and how has this provided for fun opportunities?

The funny thing about my accent is that it does change depending on the person I am speaking with.  All my friends know that my accent when speaking with my parents is totally different than if I’m speaking with you, for example.  It was hard when I worked at FedEx in the Caribbean and had conference calls with my mom on the other end (we both worked for the same company for a time).  I tried to avoid speaking directly to her because I just can’t control the change in the accent.  My kids get a kick out of it.

People always assume that I don’t speak any Spanish.  I guess because of the way I look, everyone always assumed I was American.  Once I was standing in a line at the airport and this group of girls standing behind me started talking about me in Spanish.  They obviously assumed that I couldn’t understand.  So I just waited for them to finish and then turned around and calmly asked them, in Spanish, what time it was.  The look on their faces was priceless.

FedEx was looking for someone with a neutral accent to record the messages for the call center in Dominican Republic and they asked me to do it (free labor).  It was funny because I had friends calling and listening to the messages and then they would realize it was me; I was getting calls asking me if I had a new job.

What languages do your kids speak? What language does your family speak at home?

My kids speak English and Spanish.  We have made it a priority to make sure that they learn to speak, read and write in Spanish.  My husband Marcelo is from Uruguay, so Spanish is the only way the kids could communicate with his family.  We also wanted to make sure that they were fully bilingual.  At home you will hear both Spanish and English being spoken.  I really try to speak to the kids only in Spanish but that never happens. The conversations are a mix of both.  Victoria is the one that will speak the most in Spanish.  The boys understand everything in Spanish but will always answer in English, unless they are forced to speak in Spanish.

What advice would you give someone in integrating more culture into their family?

Our house is not only a mix of Jamaican, Dominican, Uruguayan and American cultures/traditions but don’t forget that we also have 2 religions in the house.  I am Catholic and Marcelo is Jewish.  We decided to also raise the kids Jewish. This makes for a very colorful household.  Marcelo has never asked for me to stop believing in my faith or to stop following my traditions.  So, for example, we still celebrate Christmas in our house.  The Christmas tree goes up, with decorations and all, but you will also find Hanukkah decorations.  We light the candles every night and the kids get their little gifts every day.  My brother Brent’s kids are Catholic, so my kids have participated in their family’s first communions.  We always make sure to explain to the kids what they are doing and the beliefs behind it.  I feel that it is important for them to grow up knowing and accepting that we are not all the same and we don’t all believe in the same things but that doesn’t mean we can’t get along or love people that are different from us.

The most important element to making this work is respect and open communication.  We discussed the religion issue at length and how we would raise our kids, even before we got married.  It was a deal breaker. If we couldn’t reach an agreement, then both of us knew that we couldn’t continue the relationship. This is something that has to be discussed and decided BEFORE you have kids.  At the end of the day, we both agreed that we wanted to instill our kids with the same values.  If we as a society could learn to respect others and accept that we are all different, it would make the world a lot happier.

Do you have any fun plans coming up for your family?

This July we traveled to Ireland (my parents, our family and my brother Brent and his family).  My maternal grandmother was Irish and I had never been there.  My mom has always made fun of us because we all hold Irish passports, yet we had never set foot in the country.  It was a fun to visit to the country to see where my grandmother was born and where she came from.

Marcelo, the kids and I will also be visiting Croatia and Scotland.  We have tried to expose the kids to many cultures and let them explore the world around them.

I have a cruise planned with just myself and the kids through the Western Caribbean.  They are really looking forward to this trip, as they are excited about the ship and visiting new Caribbean islands.

Our summer will then end with our annual visit to Dominican Republic.  I try to take them once a year to spend some time with my parents.  We will also include a visit to a very poor area of the country to give 50 kids much needed school supplies for the upcoming school year. This will be our second year doing this.  I wholeheartedly believe that they need to learn that they have a responsibility to help others that are not as fortunate as them.

Thank you Nicole! What an inspiration you are! Your background, your family, and all the cultural aspects of your life have definitely had a beautiful impression on me and I’m sure others feel the same!

 

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Friday Favorites {7.7.17}

Its Friday! I hope you’re having a great week! Today I wanted to share some of my favorites and fun things around the web. It’s a random hodgepodge of everything I love right now; hopefully you’ll find something you love too!

1. Big Sur

I love this place! We haven’t had a vacation in a while, we’ve been traveling to see family at the beach, but it’s been three years since we’ve been to one of our favorite spots. I’m just itching to plan a trip there. Last time we went to Big Sur we ventured to this cabin on a bee farm up in the mountains with the most amazing view (Did I have to say more than cabin, bee farm or mountains?).

We woke up every morning to beautiful sunrises, fresh lemons, eggs and honey and a view of the bee keepers at work- my son learned to “smell” when he sampled a sniff of this fresh lemon we picked from their farm. There was a trail they had cleared through the redwoods and we took short walks with my son who was one at the time. They also had a beautiful claw-foot bathtub with the perfect view and this lavender soap that made the entire cabin smell amazing. If you’re contemplating your next vacation, this one’s at the top of my list; I never stop thinking about this place.


2. Made Me Smile

Love these two quotes; they made me smile. I included the Instagram handles in the photo to credit the source.

 


3. Fun Products I love

I don’t think we could live without Biofreeze in our house. They sell it on Amazon and tons of Chiropractors carry it. We buy the spray version but they also make a roll-on version and a lotion. I don’t want to sound old, but I can’t comment enough about how often this has come in handy for unexpected and debilitating neck and back pain!

I bought this necklace through Noonday at an adoption fundraiser and I can’t wait until it arrives!

I just bought this book and I’m really excited about starting it.

And isn’t this cactus romper so adorable!

I am also loving this washi tape on Etsy right now. It would be fun for wrapping and for bookmarking things in my work notebook.

This long-sleeve pineapple shirt could help me remember summer even in the coldest of winters.

PS: I don’t get paid for recommending these- they’re just fun to share!


Have a wonderful beautiful weekend! Be sure to comment below with your favorites- I’d love to hear! Also, when is Labor Day weekend??? (The answer is Sept. 4th!) Hold onto your horses- your next long holiday weekend is coming for you!

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What’s Up Wednesday {6.28.17}

This Wednesday I’m writing about what’s new; here’s what I’m sharing!

It’s a fun way to check in with all of you to share just what’s been going on; I’d love for you to share what you’re up to in the comments!

What we’re eating this week

Right now one of my favorite things to eat at home that keeps us from going out are these meatball bombs. My kids love them and it fills our craving for pizza. I also have spinach salad on repeat for lunches at work and I had this amazing sandwich at one of my favorite places, Java Cafe for lunch last week. It’s a hot ham and cheese- yummy!

What I’m reminiscing about

We are knocking things off our summer bucket list and we had so much fun at the Redbirds baseball game earlier this month. The weather was just perfect and someone gave us free tickets at the gate because they purchased too many for their group! How lucky is that!

What I’m loving

Everything and anything summer. The beach, the pool, the sunshine and not having to find matching socks for my kids #justsayin

We have flip flops and native summer shoes on repeat here.

What we’ve been up to

We have been jumping into summer full swing. My kids get to attend the same school during summertime which means less drop-offs in the morning for me. We’ve been trying to spend the extra time going on walks in the morning before work and school. I’ve been doing my normal workout and then walking like it’s my part-time job just trying to shed some summer pounds.

My son also just finished Vacation Bible School in the mornings last week; it was his first official camp.

And we’ve taken two trips this month to the beach to my hometown of Pensacola Beach, Florida.

What I’m dreading

Right now I can’t even think about days that don’t involve pools or sunshine and flip flops or popcicles. We sure are enjoying summer.

What I’m working on

Right now, I’m working on career development and what my career path looks like. I’ve been preparing my development plan.

What I’m excited about/ What I’m looking forward to next month

I’m so excited for the 4th of July. We have this little neighborhood parade every year and it keeps getting better and better. It always feels like we time warp to the 1950’s for a day and it’s a full blown red, white and blue extravaganza. Here’s some pictures from previous years.

 

I’m also excited about trying a fun Colombian place we have lined up for Dinner Club. Here’s one of their spreads.

 

What I’m watching, reading, and listening to

We just finished up The Crown on Netflix and I’m sad there aren’t any current episodes. I just finished listening to What Got You Here Won’t Get You There in the car on the back to back road trips to the beach and I’ve been reading The Woman in Cabin 10 at night and finally finished it last night. It had a slow middle section, but chugged along with a suspenseful ending.

I also just listened to this podcast where themindbodygreen with Jason Wachob interviewed Melissa Hartwig, co-founder of Whole 30. She talks about a difficult childhood she experienced, her recovery from drug use, how she created Whole 30 and her “church” outdoors where she claims to have a deep, spiritual relationship with God. It is incredibly authentic, inspiring and insightful.

I’m switching it up between my audio book, my Salsa station and Shawn Mendes on Pandora.

What I’m wearing

We just moved into a new work facility and it is cold cold and blizzard cold so I pretty much have layers on repeat. I also got this cute shirt that I’m loving for Saturdays mornings.

What I’m doing this weekend

We just left my hometown of Pensacola, Florida last week where I helped to host my sister’s baby shower to bless my first little niece Sloane. We drank champagne and I had a few hours away from our kiddos. This upcoming weekend will probably be low key and full of park time and pool time, still unpacking and washing clothes from our trip.

What else is new?

We headed to a friend’s adoption fundraiser last weekend where vendors like Noonday, Matilda Jane and Lula Roe and Mbabazi House of Style featured their goodies with a contribution of their profits all going to the adoption fundraiser- what a neat idea! Click the links if you’d like to see some of the goodies and shop these retailers for a good cause.

My husband and I have also been volunteering to make coffee at our church pretty regularly this summer. I also just posted about how we feel about adoption and all about how I lived through a rare medical disease.

I also bought this foam roller off Amazon a few months ago and it is a beautiful thing for a person who holds a desk job! It arrived straight to my door in 2 days.

Happy Hump Day. I hope you’re all having a great week! If you’re visiting this site I’m glad to have you here, feel free to take a look around.

 

 

 

 

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Friday Favorites {6.23.17}

Today I’m sharing Friday favorites! I’d love to hear your favorites too so be sure to share in the comments.

We just arrived back from a weekend trip to the beach to visit family and attend my sister’s baby shower.

 

Just two weeks prior we were in the same spot for vacation. Being back to a routine means I’m taking full advantage of getting back in shape, focusing on a healthy diet and scheduling adequate time for relaxing from our busy schedule.

First up on my favorites list is date night!

1. Date Night

We try to schedule a regular date night once a month. It has to be at LEAST once a month. We’d sure love to do it more, but right now that’s our cadence. This weekend is our date time and I’m so excited. It really is important that we get out without our kiddos and have adult conversation; this down time is important for our health and sanity and really does make us better parents. Think of it like getting an oil change for your marriage. Although, you don’t have to have kids to have a date night- we used to have them before kids! Here are some things we are sure to apply for our time together.

 

 

  1. Something fun for the kids: I try to be sure to get a new movie or pull out a toy the kids haven’t played with for a while. Sometimes it’s homemade pizza or making a gingerbread house during the holidays. Whatever it is, I try to make our date night away fun for our kids too.
  2. A clean house is a happy house: I love to clean our house before date night, that way when we come home from our evening it’s to a clean home where the kids are asleep and we can continue relaxing at home the rest of the evening.
  3. Date night doesn’t have to be at night. We have gone horseback riding, we rode our bikes to the park once and had lunch, and even went restaurant hopping via Uber trying out different spots our city has to offer for drinks, dinner and dessert. Whatever you do, be sure to make reservations if your spot is expected to be busy so that you aren’t spending your date waiting in line.

2. Health Revamp

Post-vacation is always the best time for me to focus on my health. I’m rejuvenated from my time away and I’ve rid myself of some of my habits already since we’ve been out of routine. For example, I usually don’t eat the same stuff on vacation that I eat at home; it’s a chance to evaluate those routine things with fresh eyes to gain a different perspective and be intentional about what I want diet and exercise to look like. I also seem to be more adventurous after vacation, making it easier to try new fitness routines or food.

    1. New eating plan. I tried Whole 30 before and it was extremely difficult. And then someone told me that they tried it the first time with the mindset that they’d do every part of it possible, but if they slipped up they’d just continue again and keep trying. I quit after I had one bad day because I felt like I had to start over. It’s amazing how a change in perspective can set you on track. I’m trying it again and doing my best to complete it even if I have slip-ups.

     

    1. New recipes. I researched tons of new recipes and I’m excited to build them into my weekly meal planning. Here are a few below that I’m trying.

     

    Lettuce Wraps
    Spinach-stuffed artichoke potatoes
    Kale Caesar Salad

     

    1. New exercise plan. My new plan is to walk like it’s my job. This makes exercise possible with or without kids. I’m taking breaks from my desk and walking at work and we’re taking the kids walking at night. I’m also trying to walk some mornings before work. I’ve also blocked off time on my calendar for my regular exercise plan (running, weights, etc.) so that I’m intentional about how many times I can get a workout in a week. These shoes my sister gave me make me smile and get me to the gym.

     

    1. New coffee order. They say, if you drink or eat something habitually, changing that item in your diet can make a big impact over time. I removed sugar from my coffee and added cinnamon.


3. Celebrating Happy Things

I am trying to take time to squeeze in things for me that make me a better mom, a better wife and a better employee. Here’s 3 things that made me happy this week.

  • I love my necklace from Destiny Ray Jewelry. I actually got it at Beautiful Soul Boutique in Germantown, TN but she also sells her jewelry through her Instagram page and it makes me happy to celebrate her beautiful art every time I wear my necklace or look at her latest posts of her new creations. Here are some similar.

  • Nail time! I broke away at lunchtime to get a quick fix in the nail department and it was worth the 30 minutes. I usually go with some shade of pink.

  • I get compliments on my coffee travel mug all the time. It makes me happy to celebrate with my coffee and comes in different colors. It’s dishwasher safe and keeps my coffee hot; it also has a built in coaster pad.

That’s all for this Friday. I hope you can find something fun in the post this Friday. Also be sure to comment below on what you’re celebrating.

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Friday Favorites {6.16.17}

Today I’m sharing 3 Friday favorites! This time I’m sharing things that really are my favorites because if I stopped incorporating these things in my life I’d really be out of balance. I’d love to hear your favorites too, so be sure to share in the comments.

 


ONE

Weekly Meal Planning

I feel like lately, meal planning is all everyone talks about, I don’t have an extravagant or long drawn out method. For a few weeks I made all the meals in advance and that really didn’t work for me. Here’s how I manage meals as a working mom on a budget.

  1. Search Pinterest for some meal ideas.
  2. List the meals out by day in a Word document with the links to the recipe.
  3. Click each link and search for ingredients I may need to purchase and list those out in my Word document.
  4. Then I head over to my online grocery ordering site and start searching and adding the ingredients I need there. This allows me to price compare and the site also saves things I buy every week which makes shopping super quick and easy, and I’m less likely to forget something.
  5. Finally, I check out through my online grocery ordering site and select a pick-up date that’s convenient for us.

Here are a few things I consider when selecting meals for the week.

  • Balance of easy vs. more complicated meals
  • My week schedule- are we going to be home and are there days we’ll have less time to cook dinner?
  • I try to make sure to add some healthier options along with some options that will keep us excited and less apt to head for a restaurant.
  • I add one or two meals that could be pre-cooked in a crock pot or ahead of time (like chili or salad).

This method helps me save money (since I’m able to price shop better and throw less of the things I don’t need in my cart), saves me time, and keeps me from throwing away a bunch of things we may have otherwise bought that go bad. Our meals were also getting kind of borning. This way I’m mixing it up and I have been saving all the weekly menus for future reference in case I don’t have as much time to meal plan; I can just repeat a week later on.

AND I can pull up my menu document at any point throughout the week and link straight to the recipe to quickly get my meal started. I also pre-read all the recipes before so I have kind of an idea of what I’m getting into each night. Sometimes I don’t even have to have the recipe up.

I heard Memphis is getting a grocery delivery service soon… WHAT??? #lifechanging


TWO

Zero Base Budgeting

We took a Financial Peace class about 7 years ago and we’ve tried to stick to the basic principles we learned. We took a refresher course this past January and it was a great way to start incorporating some of the things we weren’t able to get to the last time around (like will planning).  One thing we have really tried to be consistent with is the zero-based budget. Basically here are the steps:

  1. List out all your expenses. There’s a form on the site.
  2. Then list out all of your paychecks and start incorporating which items need to come out of which check.
  3. Pull out the money in cash that is not paid towards specific bills and assign envelopes to those categories. For example, cosmetics, haircuts, and gifts are all categories where you could assign envelopes for this method.
  4. Don’t forget to incorporate one-time items like tax preparation and car registration and divide those things by 12 months so that you don’t have to cover the bulk of these expenses at once. By saving for them each month in an envelope you’re less likely to have a heavy hit with unexpected expenses.

Here’s an example snapshot of a portion of our budget template.

If I stopped budgeting it would really stress me out. We tend to spend a lot more on entertainment and eating out than we realize and that stuff adds up quickly. By doing it this way it keeps our whole family sane and then we also budget for things we may otherwise forget about like vacation and cosmetics! I think there are easier online ways to do this instead of on a spreadsheet, but I’ve been doing it this way for so long that it’s hard to change over to something new.

 

 


THREE

Kids Quiet Time

My older son is not so keen on naptime, so I stopped fighting it. We have an extra bedroom and when my daughter napping, my son knows it’s time for quiet time in that room (so he doesn’t distract her from sleeping). We try to be consistent with it, instituting it every weekend day, and we allow him to play with toys and look at books. We set a timer for one hour and he has a chance to decompress and relax for that hour doing one of the things we’ve put in the room for him (magnablocks, puzzles, a stack of books, legos, etc.)

This gives us a quiet house for at least one hour on the weekend days. And sometimes, I get to take my own nap in my own bed. Sometimes.

What are your favorites?

 

 

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5 Positive Things

It’s Monday and I’m back from a LONG vacation. I am happy to have had the week off to break up my routine and spend time with my kids and family, but it was a very eventful vacation and we have the entire summer ahead of us. This Monday, I’d love to share with you 5 things I’m loving right now. Take a look and be sure to comment on fun things you’re loving right now.


1. Spa Sundays

This is something I read about a while back and I’ve been trying to do it every.single.Sunday. I put the kids to bed a little earlier (like 15 minutes earlier, don’t worry, they go to bed late almost every single weekend day of their life) and I use whatever spa-type treatment I have in my house (sometimes I add one small thing to my grocery list that week) and I enjoy time for me. I make sure to prep our clothes and lunches for the week before I begin and then after spa time I try to head to bed a little earlier so that Monday doesn’t hit us so abruptly. Right now,spa favorites are bath bombs, sugar bath scrub, face masks and everything Josie Maran (and a little tea or champagne).

 

 2. Roasted Brussel Sprouts

These are so easy to make and I have been including them in our dinner line-up nearly every week. I cut the brussel sprouts up a little thinner than this recipe to make them a bit crispier and instead of fresh ginger (let’s face it, that is time consuming) I use ginger paste and put a bit of garlic paste in the mix. Sometimes I also add diced onions and top it with crushed bacon or diced almonds.

 

eatinmykitchen.meikepeters.com

3. Dream/Plan Your Next Vacation

So I started doing this a while ago because there are so many places I want to visit across the globe, but so little time and money. How do I choose? I started searching all of the countries I’m debating on Instagram and follow the ones I’d love to visit. We have a budget started and we’ll choose our first destination soon so we can start planning. Here are a few that I love so far: @switzerland.vacations @wonderlust.amsterdam @norwegianfjords  and @visit_chile

I also follow @theglobewanderer and @buckelisters which feature beautiful places all over the world like the one in this picture.

 

IG: @bucketlisters

4. These Yoga Workouts

I started following @lizettepompayoga on Instagram and just watching her tutorials makes my back pain go away. Would you try it? She also has workout videos on YouTube

 

IG: @lizettepompayoga

5. A Book to Pass the Time

I almost forgot about these books. We used to travel with them in the car  when I was little and my 4-year-old son has all his attention on them. We use it to pass the time while we’re at restaurants and during our last road trip. My son keeps making funny comments like, “where is that guy?” and “I can’t find that little boy!”

Hope your Monday is beautiful and full of lovely, positive things.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Spend a Day with Me! Day in the Life

On the Instagram account @betterwithbeale901 friends have been taking over for a day to show life through their eyes. I’m not sure why it’s so interesting to me, but pulling back the curtain and taking a peak into someone else’s day can be so intriguing.

Since I asked others to share, I thought it would be unfair to them if I didn’t show a day in my own life. So, without further explanation, I give you last Wednesday, a middle-of-the-week-workday for me.


Good morning! I am lucky if I can wake up before the kids; it seems like every morning is earlier than the last. This particular morning I had enough time to get up and start brewing coffee (my go-to is Cafe Bustello pods with a bit of almond milk, raw sugar and cinnamon) and get ready before this one (below) started calling for us to get her out of the crib. I try to get  the kids dressed right when they wake up so that I’m not trailing behind them struggling to get each and every piece of clothing on their squirmy little bodies. My daugher is usually running around the entire house most of the time we’re getting ready to head out the door- just sayin- if we’re talking about real life. Also, we are slowly but surely renovating our house and I can’t wait to replace this tile one day!

Breakfast is really important to me. I go on spurts where I make a bunch of eggs in advance and store them in the fridge in case we’re rushed, but our staple every morning is pretty much eggs any way you can make them- we mix it up. Bacon is a luxury we only have that about twice a week. It’s probably silly, but since my kids are at school all day I really try to make sure that they have a big breakfast filled with protein so that they aren’t hungry right when I drop them off. I want them to be able to focus on learning.

While the kids are eating breakfast I’m making lunches and throwing on my clothes and running around to pick up whatever I can around the house. I don’t know about you, but if I don’t iron clothes and prep something for lunches in advance it’s hard to catch up and get out the door on time. I also try to remember to take these vitamins every morning. A few months ago I had a full health exam and turns out I’m low on vitamin D (my husband is too), so I bought the gummy version because the regular ones make my stomach upset. My son Graham gets the probiotic too along with a daily vitamin. The kids were getting really sick for a spurt of time; I started trying the probiotic to try to combat all that.

My husband leaves about 30 minutes before we do. Eventually, somehow, I finally make it into the car with both kids and all our ever-loving bags. Once everyone is strapped in we listen to a little upbeat Trolls movie soundtrack music (says every single parent right now). Honestly, free parenting tip right here, but this is how I bribe them to get into the car, “Let’s all get in the car and we can listen to Poppy!” This particular morning since I knew I would be sharing this day with you, I asked both kids to take a pic for me. As you can see, my son takes some time to wake up (he must have inherited that from me). When I pulled out of the driveway and headed to school he cried the entire way because he wanted to go back to the driveway to take the picture again so he could smile. I love him for wanting a do-over, but we were halfway to school by that time.

 

 

We also listen to podcasts, business books and development books. The one I am listening to now is “What got you here can’t get you there”.

 

Little sister loves to walk big brother into school. She loves waving at all the parents and kids and walking on the curbs on the way back to the car to head to her school. (I couldn’t capture a pic this day, but you get the idea in the photo below, it’s our morning ritual).

Every morning my daughter runs into her class and gives her teacher a big hug to start her day. I am so thankful that my kids have such awesome teachers. The individual things they get to learn from these special educators are things that they might not have learned from me.

I then head on my short drive to work at a new facility that was just built for us. I have been working for my company for 13 years and I am so thankful to have a job I love. Here’s my new desk in our open-concept work space. I have a great neighbor that I get to sit next to every day. We also have lots of break out rooms and spaces where we can float around throughout the day depending on what we’re working on. I also have a gym membership through work; I have the schedule of classes pinned up front and center in my work space and I try to head there for lunch 2-3 times a week.

I work for a few hours and then on that day for lunch I headed out to try a new dentist. When I was younger I was diagnosed with a neuromuscular disease, Myasthenia Gravis, and going to any new doctor is kind of an ordeal, since most people haven’t heard much about my condition. For the ones that have heard about it, they tend to ask me a lot of questions about my treatment and remission and diagnosis because it’s such a rare thing. But nevertheless, I’m an avid every-6-month dentist patient so let’s do this.

I headed back to work and then to a quick work meeting up the street at Starbucks. I ordered the coconut cold brew with a pump of cinnamon and wowza- it was good, but I don’t recommend it as an afternoon beverage- I definitely had the coffee jitters up until about 6 pm. Our meeting was outside until the rain dumped a downpour on our meeting, but it was nice to get a quick vitamin D fix outside.

One of the best parts of my day is picking up my daughter. She’s always so happy to see me and she drops anything she’s doing to run for me; it’s the best!

We made our way to meet my son and husband at our neighborhood pizza place for dinner. It’s just down the street and they have the best pizza and it was the perfect evening to sit outside. We always end up seeing friends we know there and it has a friendly neighborhood feel; we just love the experience. When we’re not eating out we are usually making dinner at home and making our way around the neighborhood in a post-dinner family walk.

Then it’s home for the normal routine of baths, teeth brushing and books. These kids love bath time and we let them throw a bath bomb in there a couple times a week #toddlerspatime

Although bath time is kind of a nightmare with the endless splashing-  my husband and I switch off- but I do try to volunteer to do it more often than not, because as a working parent I only get a few hours with these kids each day.

These kiddos go to bed about 7:45 to 8 and I wish I could say that I have all this beautiful free time after, but usually its spent washing dishes, preparing lunches and prepping for the next day. I turn in pretty early these days, well because I never know when these kiddos are going to wake up. We also have a pretty old pet that tends to keep waking us up at night so sleep is pretty valuable these days.

A sweet friend of mine turned me on to this tea and I have replaced my wine during the week with this. I also love those cheesy mugs you can buy when you purchase your kid’s class pictures. I gave one to my sister for Christmas one year and it was a hit- now everyone wants one!

We killed the cable a few years back and only use Apple TV but I really hardly watch it. It’s been a few weeks since we finished watching The Crown on Netflix and my husband just turned me on to a Warren Buffet documentary. Otherwise, if I do stay up its to read.

These days are long but the years are short (true cliché) and some days its a struggle to get in those things that are really important, like spending quality time as a family, having alone time, having lunch with a friend, getting in a workout, developing myself for my job.

Recently I’ve heard quite a few people say that there’s no such thing as work-life-balance, they call it work-life-iteration. I really do believe that’s true. Some weeks my job is really intense and other weeks I have some down time to better balance my home and because of that, my days can be very different. Warren Buffet says he defines his circle of importance and doesn’t stray far from his circle. He mentions that defining your end game is extremely important. I am trying to focus on what is important to me, and invest myself more wholeheartedly in those areas. I am also trying to take more time to make a mental memory of all the good stuff that’s happening before we’re onto the next big thing.

That wraps up a day in my life. Be sure to check out the Instagram day in the life posts for even more interesting day in the life stories from my friends there. Have a wonderful holiday weekend!